I should have written about him a long time ago. He had been a lover and friend for a few months now.
Since I (as Alt #11) met him, he wanted to be a lover, but during the first lovemaking, he had little habits that irritated me, specifically that he would RP what I would do and what I would feel. It made me feel as though I was just a prop, like a blow-up doll, and that all he wanted from me was my avatar.
I was ready to end it, but he persisted. He asked how he could be better. I told him the reasons I was irritated. The next time we met, he was more careful about what he said, more respectful, more considerate. I was touched. It touches me when men go out of their way to change themselves for me. In his case, he didn't just change his avie for me; he changed his behavior. I don't expect lovers to change their real selves for me; I usually just move on. For what he did, I introduced him to Opal.
It was a long time after we met when we found something more substantial that we could talk about. He started teaching me about Vedic astrology, which he knew a lot about. I had been interested in learning about it for a while and I actually bought a book on it, but never found the time to read it. I just found the book again recently.
Every lover brings something unique to the relationship. Sometimes, it takes some time to find that something -- the unique filling in that dim sum, that brings the flavor to the relationship.
As I grew up, I learned that to "know" a person "in the Biblical sense" meant that to have sexual relationships with that person. I don't think that was the correct translation. I think to "know" someone is to love that person. The deeper you know someone, the more you fall in love with them.